It’s really, in a way it can be overwhelming, like where do you even start? But bit by bit, you could even lift these things down to yourself and write them down and then bring them into the space. I guess does that help? No, that helps a lot because we just sit down and start talking and it wasn’t formal, it was just sitting down over the dinner table, that kind of venue still invites coordination. It still invites that other—and yeah. I think that that setting up, that initial interaction is really good. Just looking into each other’s eyes and getting into our heart. When I’ve tried to talk to her before, I mean, another question I would have is how do I even talk to her? I think it’s because like, what do I talk about on the day-to-day basis that’s actually still compelling, has masculine—it’s compelling in a masculine way. Learn more at https://erinjgz.wordpress.com/2016/03/28/phallacy-for-men-and-extenders/ and http://alphaguys.weebly.com/blog/the-building-of-the-ejaculation
It’s all so complicated, but I think it’s because I’ve got so much, we both have so much resentment backed up that we’re not really flowing in conversation. I’m trying to do something as opposed to just being present and I’m too much in my head. KIM: I think in these, like I was saying earlier, in terms of the polarity and trying on new energies, at first it’s going to be clunky and awkward. It can be like that in the connecting dates, too, especially if there’s a lot of stuff to get cleared and you don’t even know where to start. You just try to start with what you can see or what’s in front of you and have some kind of acceptance with the other person, like that I said, it’s going to be fumbling and clunky and you just try to support each other through that as much as possible. Once you get better at it and you make a bit of headway, you’ll feel more confident doing it and it’ll feel easier to do and become more of a natural habit or natural behavior rather than something we actually have to set up as a formal meeting to talk. We wouldn’t have to do these things if we were just naturally—like I say, cleaning as we go [laughs], like expressing these things as we go along. It happens to so many people where we don’t and it’s important then, okay, we have to formally set this up for us to schedule this and talk and clear space. That helps a lot and that’s something for me to do before we even talk about—well, anyway, it could go hand in hand with sex dates, but that’s an energy that’s poisoning our sex dates, too, so it’s a lot of good work. It’s a lot of rewarding work. KIM: The energy is poisoning your sex dates? Well, you know, like that kind of resentment or…our sex dates are lackluster because we’re coming at our sex dates from our mind, not from a place of openness. We had another crappy—well, not…I mean, it’s like pizza, even when it’s bad, it’s still pretty good. KIM: Right. But we had another lackluster sex date because that resentment, all that resentment stuff and being in our heads too much takes us out of our being connected.